WhatsApp With Men?

Dear Anyone,


One of my friends has just been dumped via WhatsApp Messenger.  Do people really still do that??  In her 33 years she said she's never had a relationship end that way, so it's a bit of a blow to her, and it's kind of making her feel like she's not worth it and put a dampener on the start to her 2012.  


The way they met was one of those situations where people constantly remind you, "You could meet him/her anywhere".  They noticed each other on the tube on the way home from work more than once, had a brief conversation, then saw each other again at a party by coincidence.  Then what sealed 'fate' was that he happened to have a meeting with someone at her work place, so they bumped into each other in the foyer.  They swapped numbers, spoke, went on dates, spent evenings together, he even gave her a surprise Christmas present.  He even asked if they are now dating exclusively, so of course she and I were getting excited (I was living vicariously through her).  Now, after a talk they had, he's sent her a message listing all her amazing qualities, saying how attracted to her he is and how good a companion she will be, but...... And that's how he ended the message - "but..." What sort of nonsense is this?  What's wrong with men??????  Really - men if you're reading - what is wrong with you??  This guy is 38 years old.  Does this mean that men's behaviours don't change, regardless of age.  All they are is male.


It's making us both wonder whether... well... is this how it's going to be?  You meet a new guy, you like him, but you will forever have to hold back, because God forbid you should catch feelings for him, there will be no point because he's just going to let you down.  Not that this situation is on the same level, but the disappointment I feel is the same way I felt about X who I briefly dated early last year.  Everything was moving nicely, then he suddenly he had to go to Manchester and behaved like our phone tariffs wouldn't be the same.


It's hard.  You try to have faith, but then you're constantly faced with bullshit situations.  My friend is lovely, sexy, a very good girlfriend, she can cook, she has her own place, loving, all the good stuff.  What's the problem?


We both have guys we could easily SETTLE for.  Is settling the answer?