Dear Anyone,
A couple of months ago SP and I were talking about the guys in my life who say they want me, though their actions say otherwise. This was after we attended an event where three guys I've previously been involved with were also in attendance. I thought it was hilarious! I also had two others texting me at the same time. Check me! Actually don't check me, because I realised that it all meant nothing really. They were all flirting and saying things that would make a girl feel desired, but only for that short moment, but they didn't mean anything long-term (as you can tell since I haven't announced anything to you!).
SP said she thinks that maybe 'he' hasn't showed himself in my life as yet, because I'm not currently the best me I can be, in terms of my happiness and head space, etc, so perhaps I'm not ready to receive him. I said that I feel there are three areas in my life that need to improve - finding love, establishing the career I want and making money, and that I'd feel like if one of those happened for me it would be like a domino effect and I'd feel positive and optimistic about the others happening too. So basically, if met someone now and we got into a relationship, I'd be that more happy in life.
Anyway I had a bit of an epiphany yesterday. My bedroom has been a melting pot of clutter for years and it's taken me so long to sort it out, mostly because it felt overwhelming and I just didn't know where to start. I've been living out of my suitcases and black bags really. I bought a much needed chest of drawers over a year ago, and it was only yesterday that, with the help of SP, it was finally assembled, so I've been able to start sorting the room out. Then it occurred to me that maybe God/ The Universe has delayed me finding this guy, because my space isn't really in a fit state to entertain him. Since I don't have my own house or flat, my bedroom is the only place I have that represents me and my world (if you like). So maybe when I finally clear it and decorate it in the way I envision, he might appear. You never know...
I'm off to continue the grind and put that theory to the test!
Wednesday 11 January 2012
Sunday 8 January 2012
WhatsApp With Men?
Dear Anyone,
One of my friends has just been dumped via WhatsApp Messenger. Do people really still do that?? In her 33 years she said she's never had a relationship end that way, so it's a bit of a blow to her, and it's kind of making her feel like she's not worth it and put a dampener on the start to her 2012.
The way they met was one of those situations where people constantly remind you, "You could meet him/her anywhere". They noticed each other on the tube on the way home from work more than once, had a brief conversation, then saw each other again at a party by coincidence. Then what sealed 'fate' was that he happened to have a meeting with someone at her work place, so they bumped into each other in the foyer. They swapped numbers, spoke, went on dates, spent evenings together, he even gave her a surprise Christmas present. He even asked if they are now dating exclusively, so of course she and I were getting excited (I was living vicariously through her). Now, after a talk they had, he's sent her a message listing all her amazing qualities, saying how attracted to her he is and how good a companion she will be, but...... And that's how he ended the message - "but..." What sort of nonsense is this? What's wrong with men?????? Really - men if you're reading - what is wrong with you?? This guy is 38 years old. Does this mean that men's behaviours don't change, regardless of age. All they are is male.
It's making us both wonder whether... well... is this how it's going to be? You meet a new guy, you like him, but you will forever have to hold back, because God forbid you should catch feelings for him, there will be no point because he's just going to let you down. Not that this situation is on the same level, but the disappointment I feel is the same way I felt about X who I briefly dated early last year. Everything was moving nicely, then he suddenly he had to go to Manchester and behaved like our phone tariffs wouldn't be the same.
It's hard. You try to have faith, but then you're constantly faced with bullshit situations. My friend is lovely, sexy, a very good girlfriend, she can cook, she has her own place, loving, all the good stuff. What's the problem?
We both have guys we could easily SETTLE for. Is settling the answer?
One of my friends has just been dumped via WhatsApp Messenger. Do people really still do that?? In her 33 years she said she's never had a relationship end that way, so it's a bit of a blow to her, and it's kind of making her feel like she's not worth it and put a dampener on the start to her 2012.
The way they met was one of those situations where people constantly remind you, "You could meet him/her anywhere". They noticed each other on the tube on the way home from work more than once, had a brief conversation, then saw each other again at a party by coincidence. Then what sealed 'fate' was that he happened to have a meeting with someone at her work place, so they bumped into each other in the foyer. They swapped numbers, spoke, went on dates, spent evenings together, he even gave her a surprise Christmas present. He even asked if they are now dating exclusively, so of course she and I were getting excited (I was living vicariously through her). Now, after a talk they had, he's sent her a message listing all her amazing qualities, saying how attracted to her he is and how good a companion she will be, but...... And that's how he ended the message - "but..." What sort of nonsense is this? What's wrong with men?????? Really - men if you're reading - what is wrong with you?? This guy is 38 years old. Does this mean that men's behaviours don't change, regardless of age. All they are is male.
It's making us both wonder whether... well... is this how it's going to be? You meet a new guy, you like him, but you will forever have to hold back, because God forbid you should catch feelings for him, there will be no point because he's just going to let you down. Not that this situation is on the same level, but the disappointment I feel is the same way I felt about X who I briefly dated early last year. Everything was moving nicely, then he suddenly he had to go to Manchester and behaved like our phone tariffs wouldn't be the same.
It's hard. You try to have faith, but then you're constantly faced with bullshit situations. My friend is lovely, sexy, a very good girlfriend, she can cook, she has her own place, loving, all the good stuff. What's the problem?
We both have guys we could easily SETTLE for. Is settling the answer?
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