A Real Boyfriend

Dear Anyone,

One of my 'friends' on Facebook posted this as a note, and I really like it, so I thought I'd share it with you (if only everyone could see this and understand it):


When she stares at your mouth
Kiss her

When she ignores you
Give her your attention

When she pulls away
Pull her back

When you see her at her worst
Tell her she's beautiful

When you see her start crying
Just hold her and don't say a word

When you see her walking
Sneak up and hug her waist from behind

When she's scared
Protect her

When she steals your favorite hoodie
Let her keep it and sleep with it

When she teases you
Tease her back and make her laugh

When she doesn't answer for a long time
Reassure her that everything is okay

When she looks at you with doubt
Back yourself up

When she says that she loves you
She really does more than you can understand

When she grabs at your hands
Hold her's and play with her fingers

When she bumps into you
Bump into her back and make her laugh

When she tells you a secret
Keep it safe and untold

When she looks at you in your eyes
Dont look away until she does

When she says it's over
She still wants you to be hers

Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything

When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go

When she says she's ok don't believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you

Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

Treat her like she's all that matters to you

Stay up all night with her when she's sick

Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid

Give her the world

Let her wear your clothes

When she's bored and sad, hang out with her

Let her know she's important

Don't talk about other girls around her

Kiss her in the pouring rain

When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:"Whose ass am I kicking baby?"


If only! Sweet though, isn't it? And it's not too much to ask, is it?! Just because it's from the woman's point of view, doesn't mean to say that we wouldn't offer the same in return. I can imagine there are guys out there that would read a list like this and think we women are demanding too much 'as usual,' but I know guys who already think this way of their partners, so i know it's possible, I just wonder if it'll be a reality for me...

I've realised that I haven't recently updated you with the situation on my love life..... that's because there is no situation. So in actual fact I have kept you completely up to speed by saying nothing!

I met up with Muscle a couple of times about two months ago and went to his place, which was nice, but it hasn't meant anything in the long run. I didn't write about it at the time, because I didn't want people asking me questions. But one of the books I'm currently reading (The Secret: Daily Teachings) has an entry which states that just because you meet someone who you think is right for you, it doesn't mean that they actually are, but you can find yourself forcing that belief and inadvertedly pushing away the one who is. Basically how can you dictate what the Universe has in store for you? I think that's what I had/have been doing with Muscle. As I have said before, he ticks almost all my boxes, so maybe I have just been blinding myself to whoever else could be out there for me. Don't worry, he hasn't shown himself as yet, but as soon as he does you'll be the second to know.

And as for Tod, well I don't think he's really speaking to me right now. Generally speak very often, and recently he's been going through some personal issues. I have been as supportive as I can be, but now that the issues seem to have been resolved (to him) he's decided that if someone tells him what he needs to hear and not what he wants to hear, then what they are saying is stupid. I happen to be one of those people, and because he didn't like what I'd asked him it seems he's not really intersted in speaking to me. Whatever. He's a user, and one day it will come back to bite him. I'm not even contemplating the thought of allowing myself to be upset, because it's simply not worth it.

So there you go. No joy, but I'm allowing myself to be more positive and sociable, and hopefully in the process something might come of it.